Arguing is undoubtedly one of the most common interactions between people today, and it has been for as long as anyone can remember. Many people experience arguments more than others; some even argue every day. Those with siblings find it easier to get into arguments, and they either find themselves rising to superiority or walking away in shame, head down and ears reddening. If you're the one with your metaphorical tail between your legs, this blog is for you! If you're the one who always comes out as the victor in your arguments, these next few tips can also help you better your arguing, and it can keep you as number one in your household. That's if you even see it that way - but hey, I don't judge. Foremost, though, it's very important to keep in mind that there's a difference between arguing responsibly and having a close-minded argument for shits-and-giggles with an unsatisfying conclusion.
Tip #1: Don't insult the other person for their belief on the topic, and in general. Many irresponsible arguers verbally attack the person they're arguing with in irrelevant ways. Insults only show immaturity, can weaken arguments, and overall just make you seem like a mean person.
Tip #2: Don't manipulate the other person to make your argument seem stronger. Plot twist: it doesn't. Manipulations in this case can vary. The most common way to manipulate in an argument is to bring up personal or unnecessary information about the other to make them feel belittled. Feeling degraded, the other side could agree with you just to end the argument all together. Again, stay relevant to the topic and keep outside information or feelings tucked away. Remember: personal and private information shouldn't ever be held against anyone.
Tip #3: Let them speak; don't talk over them. Communication is key, and an important part of communication is active listening. Refusing to let the others speak and let out their coherent thoughts mean that you're unable to properly communicate with others, and perhaps shouldn't be arguing just yet. Take the time to learn how to correctly communicate and listen, as these skills are needed and will help you be successful in many aspects of your life.
Tip #4: Understand that your opinion or side of a topic is not gospel, and always make an effort to see the other person's side. Being able to see things from different perspectives is a great skill to have and will allow you to come to a satisfactory conclusion. Also, allowing yourself to see the other person's side might earn you some brownie points later down the road with them. It's the littlest things that can mean the most to someone. Showing that you're genuinely trying is a good way to strengthen relationships.
Tip #5: Remember that it's okay to disagree. Some arguments cannot come to a conclusion that both sides can agree on, and that is perfectly fine! Agreeing to disagree can be the best thing to do sometimes if it means that nobody leaves with hard feelings. We're all different!
All arguments are different and sometimes certain "tips" or "rules" cannot be applied -- and that's okay -- but disrespecting the other person will always be a no-no. True argumentative conversations are meant to convey logical thoughts and reason, and there isn't room for immaturity. Developed and relevant points will always come out stronger.
Good luck with your future arguments!
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